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MASTER BLENDER MIXERS

LISA -        Master Blender, Mom/Step Mom

RAYLAN -   Lisa's Hubby

HER ONE -  Elle 20

HIS FIVE -  Jax 21, Little Hart 17

                    Halle 34, John 31, Chris 28

DICK -  Lisa's Ex/Dad to Elle

BITTY - Hubby's Ex 1/Mom to Halle, John, Chris

GRETA - Hubby's Ex 2/Mom to Jax & Little Hart

ELLE'S FORMER STEPMOM MALUS - Dick's Ex Wife #2


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Wednesday
Nov192014

MY 20 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER'S BRAIN SURGERY - RAISING A SURVIVOR NOT A VICTIM

It would have been relatively easy, like falling out of bed to raise Elle as a victim.  After all, I divorced her Dad when she was only a year old and Elle's Father never really got over it.  Choosing to punish me for doing so at the expense of Elle.  Still I made a conscious choice not to fall into victimhood for either Elle or myself. There has always, even at the age of 1, been far more to Elle than the things that went wrong in her life.

The challenges that fell in Elle's lap would of course change her, but it was always up to me as her Mother to help her harness them in a way that shaped her, but never defined her. 

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Thursday
Nov062014

LISA'S 10 FAVORITE THINGS - HOLIDAY 2014

One of my favorite things to do around this time of year is browse through "Oprah's Favorite Things" List.  For many years, I've entertained the idea of doing one of my own.  So on that note, here is my first go around of sharing some of my Favorite Things.  A combination of favorite gifts I've received to favorite things that make our Family Holiday Breakfasts more fun and enjoyable.  

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Monday
Oct202014

MY 20 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER'S BRAIN SURGERY - DO WE EVER HAVE CONTROL AS PARENTS?

Brain Surgery Part 1:

You go through life making choices all day long. Lots of small ones and on occasion some really BIG ones -  like what to make for dinner.  Ok, I struggle with that one quite often, but honestly I'm talking the really important decisions; the ones we make for our children.  What school should I send my little angel to next fall?  When can they go on their first date? Should I get divorced? 

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As a divorced Mom, married to a Man with Kids, I've had the benefit(drama/pain in the ass) of most of my decisions second guessed and debated by the Monday Morning Quarterback - an Ex Spouse, their current Spouse, Ex Wives and their current spouse........ Then you answer the phone one afternoon and realize that none of those decisions really mattered. Whatever control you thought you had when it came to your kids was all just an illusion.

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Friday
Aug012014

KIDS BACK TO SCHOOL LIST - AN IQ TEST

When we started our Blended Family, the kid's therapist recommended we do a baseline IQ test of our three youngest.  The reasoning?  Many times over the years she had witnessed teachers and administrators easily label kids if their square peg learning style didn't fit into a school's round whole approach.  Little to do with a kids intelligence level, more of a way to make a kid the problem when their teaching style wasn't working.

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Monday
Jul282014

SMALL TALK BETWEEN TWO STRANGERS - ALCOHOLIC DAD MISSED EVERYTHING

Five years ago Dick threw Elle out of his house in a drunken rage - telling her to never come back.  She never did.  They had not talked since that day until two weeks ago.

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