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MASTER BLENDER MIXERS

LISA -        Master Blender, Mom/Step Mom

RAYLAN -   Lisa's Hubby

HER ONE -  Elle 20

HIS FIVE -  Jax 21, Little Hart 17

                    Halle 34, John 31, Chris 28

DICK -  Lisa's Ex/Dad to Elle

BITTY - Hubby's Ex 1/Mom to Halle, John, Chris

GRETA - Hubby's Ex 2/Mom to Jax & Little Hart

ELLE'S FORMER STEPMOM  - Dick's Ex Wife #2

 

 

Monday
Jul282014

SMALL TALK BETWEEN TWO STRANGERS - ALCOHOLIC DAD MISSED EVERYTHING

Five years ago Dick threw Elle out of his house in a drunken rage - telling her to never come back.  She never did.  They had not talked since that day until two weeks ago.

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Monday
Jun092014

A SECOND MARRIAGE ISN'T EASY JUST BECAUSE HE'S THE RIGHT ONE

A few months back I was drawn into Fawn Weaver talking about her book Happy Wives ClubI remember thinking at the time that a Happy Wife - Happy Marriage is universal no matter the number attached to the front of your marriage. 

When I hit my 15th anniversary last week I decided like any good wife to crack open this book to reaffirm just what a Happy Wife I am and the The Happy Marriage Raylan and I share. 

Every word and sentiment seemed to resonate with me until  I was struck hard by the words from a Husband in a happy, long term marriage -  a sentiment shared with the author:

If you marry the right person - marriage isn't work. 

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Friday
May092014

ARE YOU A MOM IF YOU DON'T SEE YOUR KIDS ON MOTHER'S DAY?

My third Mother's Day, my Ex Husband Dick was living with his girlfriend(now former wife) who he had bestowed upon her the title of MOM to our daughter.  I had unceremoniously been demoted to the Lisa (The Pesky Bio Mom he tolerated thanks to the legal system).  That particular Mother Day's fell on my Ex Husband's weekend. Which made me all the more adamant that I would get MY time with My daughter on that one Sunday in May if it killed me. 

I've-been-lucky-to-be-apart-of-raising-three-kids. One Bio - Two Step. Hers-His-And-Ours.

I was laser focused on proving to myself  - to my Ex Husband - to his Wife and anyone that would listen really that I was in fact THE MOM. What better way to do that than on the one day designed specifically for Mom's - Mother's Day! Showcase my Momness while the world is watching. 

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Wednesday
May072014

WHAT DO YOU SEE WHEN YOU LOOK IN THE MIRROR?

Am I pretty? People tell me I'm ugly. I just want to know. Answer in the comments below.

Learning-To-Love-Myself. My-Reflection-In-The-Mirror. One beautiful teen girl after another appears on screen in a Dove #Beautyis video asking the question.  The desperation in their voices is heartbreaking especially considering they're asking complete strangers to weigh in by commenting below.

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Thursday
May012014

THROWING AWAY THE "LIST" MY SECOND TIME AROUND

When I said "I do" the first time around I relied on my trusty list. You know the list of logical - unemotional things I shared in common with my Ex. The list I thought guaranteed a good match in marriage.  Top of my list - same religion.  Growing up a Non-Mormon chick in a heavily populated Mormon state I was convinced a Mormon could never get someone like me.

A-SECOND-MARRIAGE-COUPLE-FIRST-PARENTS-SECOND

What I never took into account was did he make me laugh?  Did he really get me? Mormon or not.

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