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MASTER BLENDER MIXERS

LISA -        Master Blender, Mom/Step Mom

RAYLAN -   Lisa's Hubby

HER ONE -  Elle 20

HIS FIVE -  Jax 21, Little Hart 17

                    Halle 34, John 31, Chris 28

DICK -  Lisa's Ex/Dad to Elle

BITTY - Hubby's Ex 1/Mom to Halle, John, Chris

GRETA - Hubby's Ex 2/Mom to Jax & Little Hart

ELLE'S FORMER STEPMOM MALUS - Dick's Ex Wife #2


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Monday
Oct202014

MY 20 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER'S BRAIN SURGERY - DO WE EVER HAVE CONTROL AS PARENTS?

Brain Surgery Part 1:

You go through life making choices all day long. Lots of small ones and on occasion some really BIG ones -  like what to make for dinner.  Ok, I struggle with that one quite often, but honestly I'm talking the really important decisions; the ones we make for our children.  What school should I send my little angel to next fall?  When can they go on their first date? Should I get divorced? 

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As a divorced Mom, married to a Man with Kids, I've had the benefit(drama/pain in the ass) of most of my decisions second guessed and debated by the Monday Morning Quarterback - an Ex Spouse, their current Spouse, Ex Wives and their current spouse........ Then you answer the phone one afternoon and realize that none of those decisions really mattered. Whatever control you thought you had when it came to your kids was all just an illusion.

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Friday
Aug012014

KIDS BACK TO SCHOOL LIST - AN IQ TEST

When we started our Blended Family, the kid's therapist recommended we do a baseline IQ test of our three youngest.  The reasoning?  Many times over the years she had witnessed teachers and administrators easily label kids if their square peg learning style didn't fit into a school's round whole approach.  Little to do with a kids intelligence level, more of a way to make a kid the problem when their teaching style wasn't working.

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Monday
Jul282014

SMALL TALK BETWEEN TWO STRANGERS - ALCOHOLIC DAD MISSED EVERYTHING

Five years ago Dick threw Elle out of his house in a drunken rage - telling her to never come back.  She never did.  They had not talked since that day until two weeks ago.

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Monday
Jun092014

A SECOND MARRIAGE ISN'T EASY JUST BECAUSE HE'S THE RIGHT ONE

A few months back I was drawn into Fawn Weaver talking about her book Happy Wives ClubI remember thinking at the time that a Happy Wife - Happy Marriage is universal no matter the number attached to the front of your marriage. 

When I hit my 15th anniversary last week I decided like any good wife to crack open this book to reaffirm just what a Happy Wife I am and the The Happy Marriage Raylan and I share. 

Every word and sentiment seemed to resonate with me until  I was struck hard by the words from a Husband in a happy, long term marriage -  a sentiment shared with the author:

If you marry the right person - marriage isn't work. 

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Friday
May092014

ARE YOU A MOM IF YOU DON'T SEE YOUR KIDS ON MOTHER'S DAY?

My third Mother's Day, my Ex Husband Dick was living with his girlfriend(now former wife) who he had bestowed upon her the title of MOM to our daughter.  I had unceremoniously been demoted to the Lisa (The Pesky Bio Mom he tolerated thanks to the legal system).  That particular Mother Day's fell on my Ex Husband's weekend. Which made me all the more adamant that I would get MY time with My daughter on that one Sunday in May if it killed me. 

I've-been-lucky-to-be-apart-of-raising-three-kids. One Bio - Two Step. Hers-His-And-Ours.

I was laser focused on proving to myself  - to my Ex Husband - to his Wife and anyone that would listen really that I was in fact THE MOM. What better way to do that than on the one day designed specifically for Mom's - Mother's Day! Showcase my Momness while the world is watching. 

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