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MASTER BLENDER MIXERS

LISA -        Master Blender, Mom/Step Mom

RAYLAN -   Lisa's Hubby

HER ONE -  Elle 20

HIS FIVE -  Jax 21, Little Hart 17

                    Halle 34, John 31, Chris 28

DICK -  Lisa's Ex/Dad to Elle

BITTY - Hubby's Ex 1/Mom to Halle, John, Chris

GRETA - Hubby's Ex 2/Mom to Jax & Little Hart

ELLE'S FORMER STEPMOM MALUS - Dick's Ex Wife #2


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Monday
Mar302015

THE DISPOSABLE WOMAN - SEX, LIES AND CYBER BULLYING

When I was a kid, I always assumed when I grew up bullies wouldn't exist.  The Internet shattered that fantasy with an all-new low for bullying; hate, intimidation, threats lobbed at victims from the safety of a cartoon character avatar and fake name. For a long time I chose to look the other way.  It was "their" war not mine.  

Then I became a StepMom and like so many women before me became a Disposable Woman in the eyes of the Cyber Bullies.

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Monday
Mar092015

FINDING THE WOMAN BEHIND THE SAHM

Sixteen years ago, my Hubby and I decided that I would be a Stay At Home Blended Mom (SAHBM).  I never really saw myself as a Stay At Home Mom (SAHM), but having spent the first five years of Elle's life working full time along with a 50/50 custody arrangement the SAHBM idea sounded very appealing.  I would have far more time available to spend with my Daughter on our scheduled days.   

Finding The Woman Behind The SAHM

My fantasy of having oodles of time to spend with Elle was thrown into a tailspin before I had one full week under my belt: my then 13 year old StepSon Chris came to live with us full time.

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Thursday
Mar052015

FRIENDLY NOT FRIENDS WITH THE EX

An open letter from a Mom to the StepMom a few weeks ago went viral and with it the implication a Mom and StepMom's ideal relationship should be that of two Besties. While in theory it sounds like a reachable goal, reality paints a far more challenging picture that has all the makings of friendship never happening.  The better alternative, the one more likely to succeed is creating an atmosphere of Friendly Not Friends With The Ex.

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Wednesday
Mar042015

OUT OF SHAPE BODY AND SOUL 

I'm not quite sure how it happened, but I've gained 17 pounds over a three-year period.  Now on my third scale, I've accepted the fact that it's probably not a problem with the scale. Nor is it something I ate, water weight or just a temporary phase.  Nope the weight has received permanent resident status.  The result an out of shape body and soul.

After some in-depth soul searching, a Google search, I landed on Cardio Barre. 

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Tuesday
Mar032015

STAYING MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO IS WRONG FOR YOU IS THE EASY WAY OUT NOT DIVORCE!

Ever notice that whenever someone either writes or talks about divorce there is always those vocal group of perfectionists letting all of us who are divorced know that we are, well, quitters? Opining that we divorcees like to take the easy way out in life, while they meanwhile do all the hard work by staying married.  

Never for one moment have I entertained the notion that I somehow took the easy way out by divorcing my first Husband.  FIVE reasons why Divorce is never the EASY choice:

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